Can I get a Hallelujah

Didn’t break my hand!!! Woop Woop! My personal radiologist (LOL), my friend Maurys hubby Jeet, checked out my MRI and the bone is bruised but not broken, Thank God! So I still can’t use my hand for much, but no surgery and I just have to wait for it to heal. Im so happy I can’t tell you.

The house is still disaster, but the end is in sight. I think the painters will be done today. By next week everything will be put back together and we’ll feel normal again. Dining room is just about done and looks awesome and bedroom is on its way. Next week I’ll post pics when everything is in place.

Meanwhile, Phillip has us watching a YouTube guy who posts videos under Bald & Bankrupt. This English guy travels around all these obscure places, especially in former Soviet countries. He goes on amazing adventures and meets all these interesting people. I said to Sam, when we can travel again, I think we should do similar. Because we would be hilarious. At least we think we’re hilarious.

Bald & Bankrupt Guy

We love going to new places, love exploring and I cant wait to see new and different things. The only teeny tiny problem is that I speak no other languages. Sam, of course, is unbelievable at learning all different languages like Spanish, German, French etc. The bald guy from the show is fluent in Russian therefore can communicate with many people in the places he travels to. My mode of operation is usually to smile, point, nod my head like an idiot and usually I get what I want. Ive tried to learn, but my problem is I can understand most of what’s going on, but by the time I can figure out what to say, the conversation has moved on 3 other topics so I just give up and start nodding again…

Whatever. It’s a nice thing to think about, especially when Covid seems to be spiking again. Im so happy we decided to update the house a bit so this upcoming winter will be cozy. Miles has news that the move to Chicago will be postponed again so we’ll all be together for who knows how long, not that I’m complaining. Love having us together and love knowing we’re all ok. So until we CAN travel, I’ll just dream about all the places in the world we’ll be able to explore in the future, as long as I don’t kill myself in the meantime.

PS: Another small win. After the MRI Friday, I went to Home Depot and found Bounty paper towels! I realize, not such a big deal, except the only paper towels that are in our normal food store disintegrate the moment you get them off the roll. We affectionately call them prison paper towels. They suck. So finding Bounty was a little gift. I’ll take it…

And then there was the Hamate

You guys just aren’t going to believe this. Last week my friend and I went for a walk. Innocent as you please, walking along, my ankle decides to just give out and I fall like a pancake on my face. BUT I break my fall with my hand and arm. It was a gravelly place and dirt and debris got into my hand and it hurt. It took a minute to get up and I was a bit shaken up. What made me feel MUCH better was 4 Westport women who weighed 100 lbs collectively asking if I was ok a million times because when I fell I didn’t pop up like a spring chicken (which, for the record, Im certainly not).

So I ignored the hand, as usual. But by Sunday night it wasn’t feeling any better. Perhaps worse. So I decide to go to orthopedist yesterday and I may have broken a bone in my hand. Of course I did. They took X-Rays and they think its the hamate bone, which has a hook.

They think I broke off the hook part. When that happens, the piece of bone just floats around so they have to surgically remove the piece and eventually it will heal. Im going for an MRI to make sure its the correct diagnosis. Meanwhile, Im one handed. Honestly Im ready for 2020, like everyone else, to be over.

On a good note, my new dining room wallpaper is going up today. Im very excited because the house looks like a hoarder lives here with everything piled up all over the place. Everywhere I turn, its a mess. Also, the painters are coming tomorrow for bedroom so hopefully everything will be in order by next week. Fingers crossed. Will update when I get the MRI with results…OY.

Great. Just Great.

So everything humming along here…until today. My endocrinologist called. He took blood tests from me last week, and got the results in. I am now a Type 1 diabetic. We’ve already been down this road, and I guess my pancreas was working slightly, but now has given up the ghost.

There are two main types of diabetes: type 1 and type 2. Both types of diabetes are chronic diseases that affect the way your body regulates blood sugar, or glucose. Glucose is the fuel that feeds your body’s cells, but to enter your cells it needs a key. Insulin is that key. People with type 1 diabetes don’t produce insulin. You can think of it as not having a key. People with type 2 diabetes don’t respond to insulin as well as they should and later in the disease often don’t make enough insulin. You can think of it as having a broken key.

For the last several months I’ve been on insulin 4 times a day and keeping track of my blood sugar. Ive been able to manage it pretty well. At this last visit my doctor put me on another medication which you take once a week to even out my sugars, and a monitor that stays in my arm for 2 weeks at a shot so that I don’t have to stick my fingers 4 times a day.

So I guess I just keep doing what I’m doing, forever. I really don’t know what else could happen to me, but I better not tempt fate because the next thing you know Ill develop a goiter on my neck or something else disgusting.

Meanwhile, Gma is acting up and I haven’t spoken to her in a few days because she’s just too much. I helped her figure out a bill and she informed me that her friend asked her, after she told her she’s losing weight, who’s helping her get clothes, and she said “Nobody…Im all alone…” then ANOTHER friend asked “Are you eating your vegetables because Im going to my daughters for a sit down dinner and having squash and green beans.” This is all backlash because she didn’t come over for dinner Sunday because we saw a show instead. It doesn’t matter how much I do, its not enough. I’ve had it. Im at the end of the road and soon she’s going to realize it…

On a brighter note, Miles, who has been spending time in New Orleans to be with Meg and some friends for a month, got through the hurricane ok and everyone is safe. Plus Sam and Phillip finished the deck at the top of the stairs and it looks fantastic. I have guys here stripping wallpaper and painting so our dining room and bedroom will have a lift, which Im sure we’ll enjoy during the upcoming colder months. Im looking forward to having a fresh look.

Sorry for all the ranting but I have to get it out…Am spending the rest of the day watching my favorite October movies, like Village of the Damned and trying to get my mind calmed down.

Lets get ready for Halloween

And…that’s a wrap.

Ive taken the LAST trial pill! Very exciting because that means the main part of treatment is complete. I’ll still be on Letrozole for years, but as far as we can tell, the cancer has been conquered. I asked the Dr how will we know if its completely gone, and his response was, we cant REALLY know. However, we’ve done everything possible, and more, to eradicate it. Im grateful that I was approved for the trial and I can go on from here.

I had a little celebration because an old friend was in town and it was an excuse to get our group together. We’ve known each other around 20 years and have watched each others children grow up. I think that because of Corona its so rare to get together now that when we do its really fun and special. We got carried away with the wine, as usual, but it was great hearing stories about the kids and sharing what’s been happening. I know I sound mushy, but without my friends I could never have gotten through until now.

Meanwhile, back at the GMA front, she needs a new sink and faucet and you would think she’s renovating a $6 mil. mansion. I pick out a sink and faucet and of course its not correct. Now she’s called in a plumber and he says it needs changed (which is fine) but she just goes on and on, till the break of dawn. Today she’s coming over to pick something, so Im having a lovely cannibus pill before arrival. Also, she having trouble with the circulation in her feet, which two doctors told her was because of age, but she refuses to believe it. So Friday, it back to the DR to torture her more.

Work has slowed down so Im focusing on getting plantings in and the dining room done. All exciting stuff. Plus my beloved New Orleans Saints won their first game of the season last night so everything going pretty good!

Covid Vacay

It’s been a while so I thought I’d check in. A lot has been going on and I’m about to catch you up. Last month I was doing work for my friend Susan who owns an interior design firm with her partner Mila. I met Susan about 25 years ago when she was the creative director at Wamsutta and I worked for her as the graphic design manager. We had a great working relationship which changed to a wonderful, lifelong friendship which Im so grateful for.

She was lucky enough to get a few large jobs, due to Corona, which are based in CT and Westchester and needed a bit of help which I was thrilled to do. Mainly I got to order millions of things, which I could do from home and it was the perfect fit. She got me inspired and Im going to update a couple of rooms in the house. The boys, of course are resistant because they like everything to stay the same. But, considering we decorated 20 years ago, we need some new looks. Ill post when complete.

Last week, we went on vacation to Bar Harbor, Maine. We had a great time and it was fun just hanging out, the 4 of us, exploring new places. We were at the Acadia National Park and the boys did a lot of hiking, including hikes that involved rebar in the mountain to hold on to (which clearly I skipped). I relaxed, read some books, one day we went antiquing. The area is beautiful and is definitely something to see. Everyone was careful about distancing, masks etc so we felt pretty safe.


It was a great time away and I feel blessed that we were able to do it. Soon Miles will start his job and the window will close for family trips being easy to coordinate. I know Covid is horrible, but the good that has come out of it is that I’ve really enjoyed having the boys home and being together. We may get on each others nerves sometimes, but it’s good to reconnect as a family. Our vacation made it clear we still enjoy being together and having adventures which I hope will never change.

Now we are back to the grindstone, but so happy to have new memories.

GMA strikes again plus mothballs

Saturday was GMAs 87th birthday. She was good and we went to a harbor restaurant and she enjoyed herself. It was a nice time but she’s been slipping lately. She can’t remember anything – yet she refuses to believe she cant remember anything. She’s driving me insane. Last Friday she had on her calendar that she had a dr appt today. I asked her about it because I didn’t have it on my phone. She said “Well, its been there forever!” indignantly. Yesterday I called the dr to check on the time of appointment, and they said Oh, she cancelled it. THEN, I call her and asked when she was planning to tell me about the cancellation and she got all pissy because Im confronting her…oy.

Ive gotten her helper to come twice a week, but she maintains that she doesn’t need it. She complains about all her “paperwork” but when I offer to pay all the bills, she flips and says “NO I can do it.” So really, I cant win. This morning I got 12 (literally) calls before 10am. Her car battery died and she called AAA, which was fine but then there was a whole ordeal of her wanting to go to the dealer to ask questions, check the car, talk to the people etc. Finally convinced her to let the tow people take the car and the dealership will let her know what’s wrong. But everything is an elaborated ordeal, not to be easily remedied.

Meanwhile, there’s a chipmunk living beneath our garage and my dear husband read that they don’t like mothballs so now the garage smells like Great Aunt Gertrudes old coat. There is not enough liquor in the world for all of this…

Call the Guy

Im dying. Last night, in the middle of the night Phillip comes banging into the bedroom. Apparently . when he was watching tv last night something fell in the chimney. He was totally freaked out. We had the damper closed so whatever is in there isn’t going anywhere. The best part was when we woke up this morning and we found a note on the counter:

Surrounded by other notes for emphasis:

Now those of you who know me, know Im always telling Sam to “Call the Guy”, for one reason or another, so this just had me rolling. You think your kids don’t really listen to EVERY WORD YOU SAY, but they do and then they become you..

Then I go in the family room and the fireplace screen is fortified with wood. What this is going to do exactly is anyone’s guess…

In other news, the 4th was really strange because we went to the beach and my eyes were really watery and it turns out I got A COLD IN MY EYE. Who does this? nobody but yours truly. Spent rest of evening and next day in bed. Feeling better now, thank god, because we’re leaving for Cape Cod for 3 days to visit our good friends Maury and Jeet. If I would have had to cancel, I would have flipped out.

Hope you all had a happy and healthy 4th. We’re about to head out the door, but first I have to call the guy.

I’m Baaack

What is there to say really? Same as everyone in the world, we been in quarantine and laying low.

Ive been doing some work with my old boss Susan and that’s kept me busy and my mind off just being at home all the time. Now that the weather is starting to get better, we’re toying with the idea of hitting the beach (obviously away from everyone), or just visiting somewhere for the day that’s NOT here.

The boys have been working on their project of steps leading up to bocce court. They’ve really outdone themselves and its looking terrific. They’re almost done with the stairs and perhaps they’ll add a little patio at the top. Heres where its at so far:

Just this past week, after 3 months, we actually went out to dinner for Miles’ birthday. We went to one of our favorite restaurants in town. They did a wonderful job separating everyone outside and it was a great meal. Miles’ girlfriend Meg came and it was great to see her. She’s been one of the only people visiting because her family has been seriously quarantining too.

Ive been talking to everyone, obviously. But its not the same. I miss hanging out with my friends and just being around people. I know I’m so lucky to have the boys (all 3), and I need to shut up, but I still miss everyone. Im hoping soon we can return to some kind of semblance of normal. Im scared of the second wave and how people are really flagrantly ignoring the rules of quarantine. I suppose we will have to wait and see how this all shakes out.

Meanwhile, in GMA land, she finally got her hair done. Hallelujah. So off she went to the mall and she was thrilled. I have an appt for next week and Im excited, too. I look similar to the Wicked Witch of the West. Ive been taking her to a myriad of dr appts because when your 1) 87ish and 2) Gma, each day is a new problem. After we sorted the drs for the day on Monday, then she then brings up there’s problems with the sinks in the apt and can I have the imaginary handyman come to fix them, because “there are very well known handymen in Ridgefield”. Who these people are is a mystery, but now I have a new project. Yay for me. Todays doctor is a vein specialist because her foot swelled up and we don’t know why. So we’re going this afternoon and hopefully they’ll figure out what’s happening. Next week its the back doctor and perhaps we’ll throw in the eye doctor too, because, why not. Between her drs and my drs, the visits go on and on till the break of dawn.

Mothers Day Quarantine

Hello, hello, hello. Its been about a month since I last updated because in the middle of a quarantine there’s not much to say. Where have we gone…nowhere. What have we done…nothing. Who have we seen…no one. You get the idea. Ive been extremely careful about where I go, so basically I stay home. My health is progressively getting better (normal) and Im back on the trial drugs so just a little sleepy here and there. I did get to pick up Miles in NJ and that was terrific. I was so relieved to have him home.

Last weekend Sam bought a new car because his 14 yr old one has finally said “No thank you” to driving around. We then proceeded to go to Arthur Ave in the Bronx for a drive out (probably not one of our smarter moves) but we really wanted to take the new wheels for a spin and Sam suggested the Avenue. I wasn’t going to get out of the car, but we found a spot on the street and Sam actually parked in it. On the street. In the Bronx. Day 2 of new car. Who is this guy and where did he put my husband? Not everything was open, but we got some deli stuff and some pastries (we were the only people in the shop) and we all felt like we had been on vacay for the day. We were missing the Zoo and the Botanical Garden and are anxious for them to reopen, like everyone else.

This weekend was Mothers Day and it was the best ever. Miles made a superb breakfast and we all played Monopoly in the morning. Sammy won and was very proud. Gma came over and actually behaved herself. We played cards outside, had lots of cocktails and the boys made a great dinner for us. Gma then brings up how when she dies she wants to be cremated, and with me. So even when I die, there she’ll be. Then she wants a “tea”. Please don’t ask what that is bc who knows. Always something to look forward to with her.

Here she is bundled up like a gnome playing cards.
Me and the Boys
Discussing the funeral, hopefully I won’t kill her soon…

I hope you all had a wonderful Mothers Day and that you are holding up during this crazy time. Its been hard but the one thing I know is that Im grateful for my family and that we are all here together.


The results are in and Im negative for Corona! I actually feel a lot better. I think I just had some sort of weird Spring virus. The headache, after 4 days has finally subsided and though I still have a bit of achiness, Im fine.

Easter was nice yesterday, and yes, Lynn, I made the dinner. We even had Gma over because I felt guilty. I made her stay outside the house. Thank god it was a lovely day. Meanwhile, she fell 2 days ago because I told her I got tested and she decides to get me flowers. She calls the Stop and Shop, HAS THEM DELIVER FLOWERS TO HER, then proceeds to FALL IN THE HALLWAY. Then she crawls to the neighbors door, bangs on it with her cane, to help her. THEN has THE NEIGHBOR DELIVER THE FLOWERS TO ME! Im telling you, she’s completely crazy. I was so mad at her because she could have really hurt herself for no good reason. But you cannot reason or explain to her, so there we are.

I also gave Phillip and Sam haircuts yesterday. I watched a YouTube video and they actually turned out good. Not Salon good, but not totally embarrassing either and I didn’t even leave a hole in the back of anyones head like last time. We FaceTimed with Miles and Meg who had a fabulous brunch together in the house. They’re doing good and everyone in the house isn’t killing each other so everyone is happy.

I hope you all had a wonderful Easter and am looking forward to more good weather and time outside.